Monday, June 21, 2010

Spew

My best friend died today. My best friend from high school more specifically. We played basketball everyday. We inspired each other to play better, to jump higher, to dunk. We played video games until 5am. I brought him on family vacations. We had more fun than you can imagine. We got in more trouble than you can imagine. I grew out of it. He did not. He became an alcoholic and could not stop. He had a son 6 months ago and could not stop. I don't even know how or why he died right now, but he is gone.

Imagine he biggest asshole you ever met and times it by ten. That was Lenny. Imagine the funniest person you ever met and times it by ten. That was Lenny. Imagine the best friend you ever had and times it by ten....

You think of someone and the dominate thought is that of alcoholism. I can't help but think that. But right now I think of the time in high school that he came to the shore with me. In about 3 minutes he convinced two girls we met to meet in the beach at 3am that night. They actually did. And we actually were sober for a change, making out with these girls under an astoroid shower until 5am when my parents noticed we were gone and found us walking home. We had to weed the entire beach property the next day as punishment. We could have cared less. The price of a good clean time as high schoolers.

I could tell a million other stories. My parents could tell many of those same stories, which ended much worse than two kids picking weeds. As a parent I know I will end up telling a lot of bad stories about my kids, but I pray there is never a story that ends up like Lenny's story has ended. I love you brother.

24 comments:

Christina said...

Tim, I'm so sorry. That's terrible news about your friend. I wish I could think of something to say that would make you feel better but I can't think of anything. It's such a sad thing.

Julie said...

I'm so sorry Tim. You are in my thoughts, I hope your memories of him never fade.

Kristine said...

That's horrible. God I'm so sorry.

Tim said...

Thanks all.

Kristine, I stopped stopped writing and I thought pretty much everyone else did too... I see you're still writing? I just subscribed. Happy to see you're still going.

Kristine said...

I hope you keep writing - yours has always been one of my favorites.

Felisa said...

I'm sorry about your loss. That truly breaks my heart. I'm in college right now and everyone drinks too much and it's "normal" because it's just a "phase". Still, I can't help but worry about how some might never get over it. Really sorry about your loss...

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Roma said...
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Roma said...

Well, I don't know what I can say. I'm 14 and I never lost somebody important in my life. Just birds and dogs. So I can't say: "I know what you feeling". And I won't try to explain why god took him away from you, like some people will try. I don't know who you are, but if I knew who are you, and if I were closed from you, I just would hang you. Because sometimes the silence is better than any one word. So... I just wish you all the good things and somebody to hang you with no word.

p.s.: I'm brazilian, and I don't know english very much, so sorry if I wrote some words wrong or some expression that you don't know. ^^

OptionsRaptor said...

I browse random blogs in the evening and I happened to come across yours tonight. I usually don't comment on blogs but for what it's worth I just wanted to say I'm sorry for your loss.

-OptionsRaptor.

Kurt Kuden said...

:( I'm sorry for your loss. Apart from his drinking prob, he must be such a very great friend.

sofie said...

thanks for your story...i left my husband, he drinks. i havnt been able to write about it yet. i dont want to watch him die.

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Chick said...

The sadness of it all kills me.

I'm sorry you lost your friend.

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M.S. said...

Sorry for your loss... glad you can remember the good times :)

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egan said...

Dude, I'm super super late on this one. This had to be rough for you back in June, not sure if the loss has gotten any easier or not. I hope so. It sounds like he'll be a part of you for a very long time, memories are amazing like that.

Maureen Grace said...

I'm sorry about your bestfriend... life's just like that... hope you're okay now.. :)